A woman, 24-year-old Reddit user, with the username, SweetBabyZ2020, had shared on Reddit’s “AITA” subreddit that she was over the moon, when she gave birth to her baby. But her happiness was cut short, when her husband wanted a paternity test when he saw the skin color of the baby. The woman had shared her story on Reddit, and wanted for advice.
She had explained that her daughter’s skin was too dark, for a newborn, as if she was a child from two black parents. “When my daughter was born her skin was very dark and looked like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent.”
When her husband saw the baby, he went mad, and left his wife at that moment, as she shared. “My husband Jim, not real name, was furious and accused me of cheating and left right then and there. He told everyone on both sides of the family what happened, made posts on social media and wanted a divorce.”
The family members and the friends of her husband, had harrassed her a lot, over the accusation of her husband. “His family and a lot of our friend all called to say how upset they were at me and called me really nasty names. My mother was by my side the entire time and I kept professing my innocence.”
Her husband had threw her stuff out of the house, and she went to stay with her parents. “Jim refused to pick me up from the hospital, threw my stuff out on the lawn and changed the locks, so I had to stay with my parents.”
Then her husband had sent pictures of the nursery she had created for her daughter, which she put a lot of effort in it. “When my sister called to ask for the baby stuff Jim texted me pictures of the bare nursery room and said he got rid of everything. He even destroyed my Art studio, I like to paint, and the art I made and told me my work would be too awful to sell. I was distraught and tried to focus on my baby.”
After a while, her husband had agreed to take a paternity test, and it turned out that he was the father. “Weeks went by and Jim refused to speak to me directly and has never once asked about our child. Eventually he agreed to do a paternity and he was 100% the father. No one could believe the results and it was done again, Jim’s the dad.”
Then one of the cousins of her husband had checked their ancestorial background, and found out that they were 30% African. “Around that same time one of Jim’s cousins did the Ancestry thing and there was around 30% of African ancestry in the family. This combined with the test Jim paternal great-grandmother admitted to having an affair around the time Jim’s grandfather was born and was because he could pass she just assumed her husband was the father.”
They had learnt that the great-grandmother of her husband had an affair with a black man, as many of them were shocked.
As people had apologized from the mother, she had stated that the damaga was done. “Since then Jim has been reaching out and everyone has come to apologize, and while it did feel good to feel vindicated the damage has been done. I can’t un-hear or unsee all the horrible things that was said and done.”
“Not just to me but to my child as well. Jim made some very racist remarks. Things that I thought he’d never say and he did it so easily. Regardless of what our daughter looks like I don’t want her to be around that. What else will Jim and his family say or do the next time they get mad? How are they going to treat our daughter when she does something that upsets them?”
Her husband is trying to back things up, as he is now reparing the nursery, which the mother had put so much effort in it, which makes her sad. “Jim has been begging for forgiveness. I said I needed time, he asked to see the baby and I let him but I’m too afraid to physically hand her to him. He’s repairing the the nursery and keeps asking me what I would like and I cry every time saying we already had what I liked and some of the items that we had can’t be replaced.”
“He asked me if I still loved him and I admitted that he showed me his worst self and I don’t know if I could live with that image. I didn’t mean to be hurtful but it’s how I feel. My sister suggested Couple’s Therapy but I don’t feel like I should have to work to fix something that I didn’t break. I’ve never cheated and have been 100% innocent in all of this the whole. AITA for not wanting to give Jim a second chance?”
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